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Let's Sit Together

Updated: May 4, 2022

In Sedona, we have a Peace Park known as the Amitabha Stupa. It is a beautiful outdoor venue and a spiritual destination for prayer, meditation, and the experience of peace in a sacred place. This place was conceived of and built for people of all faiths. It is a gorgeous venue where I go and sit and meditate, or just be with myself to turn off the "noise" from the outside world.

When I teach meditation, the biggest obstacle that people share with me about their practice is the fact that they can't stop their thoughts. Well...I am here to let you off the hook and know, it's the nature of the mind to think. Just as the heart beats, the mind thinks. So, it's okay. Remember we are training our minds to slow down the stream of thoughts.

Meditation 🧘🏻‍♀️can provide you with so many benefits. The three basic elements to practice any meditation is your willingness to do it (Sankulpa), your non-judgmental, gentle attention (dharana), and an object to focus your attention on. Meditation is an approach to training the mind, similar to the way that fitness is an approach to training the body. It is a way to slow down the steady stream of thoughts and calm your “monkey mind.”

If you have never meditated before, and you don’t know where to begin, I suggest finding a trained Meditation Instructor, such as me ☺️🙌🏻🙌🏻, to help you begin your practice. It is an excellent way to understand the various benefits that meditation offers, and why sitting in stillness is important to your body and brain. Many individuals who begin to practice meditation never know if they are “doing it right,” and a Meditation Instructor can dispel your concerns and help you through all of your questions, as well as explain that meditation works because it physically changes the structure of your brain.


Meditation is the practice of ancient and modern techniques that settle the nervous system and train the brain to be more focused, engaged and less reactive. It’s a doorway for transformation. It’s the simple practice of turning your attention away from distracting thoughts and focusing inwardly. You are training your attention to be more aware. Meditation can be difficult for a beginner to sit and think of nothing or have an “empty mind.” There are many tools to help you through this process when you are starting out. In general, the easiest way to begin meditating is by using something to focus your attention on…most often you use your breath. You can always find your breath in the present moment.
This type of meditation is called focused awareness. It involves focusing on a single point. As I said, this could entail following the breath, or it could be repeating a single word or mantra, staring at a candle flame, listening to a repetitive gong or chime, or counting beads on a mala. Since focusing the mind is challenging, a beginner might meditate for only a few minutes and then work up to longer durations.

In this form of meditation, you simply focus your awareness on the chosen object of attention and each time you notice your mind wandering, you come back to that focus…you do that as many times as you have to. In the beginning you may notice your mind consistently wandering, you may notice that it is difficult being in stillness, you may even notice your mind struggling as you sit, but you have to begin somewhere.

When meditating, rather than pursuing random thoughts, you simply let them go and become the observer of those thoughts. Through this process, your ability to meditate improves. Meditation should be a type of personal indulgence and not create a hardship. Be gentle with yourself. It takes time to cultivate a new habit. My suggestion is to set aside time in the morning for this practice before you begin your day. This helps you set the trajectory for your day and how your wish to engage with life. Once you have mastered that time, you can add in a “happy hour” practice or an evening practice before bed. Yoga Nidra is an excellent way to calm the mind and the nervous system prior to falling asleep.


My mentor and teacher, Sarah McLean, shared with me the five essentials to any meditation, and I teach from those same principles. They are:

(1) It’s okay to have thoughts. Understand that your brain is wired to think. Just as your eyes see and your heart beats, your brain thinks. You cannot stop your brain from thinking. However, as you build your meditation practice, the steady stream of thoughts will begin to slow down and become more subtle.

(2) Let go of expectations. When you meditate don’t expect anything to happen. Sometimes you may have a wonderful, even blissful experience, and other times, it won’t be anything like that.

(3) Be kind to yourself. Positive self-talk is essential on and off the cushion. Don’t chastise yourself if you are experiencing a meditation where you could not sit still, or you struggled and you noticed many thoughts, no matter what, you are doing it correctly.

(4) Don’t try too hard. You are sitting in stillness. You don’t need to worry about getting anything right.

(5) Stay with it. Stay with it each time you meditate. Set a timer and stay seated the entire time. Don’t let distractions disrupt you and stop halfway into your meditation. And, stay with it in the long run. Meditation brings about many wonderful benefits that help you navigate life better, make clearer decisions and allow you to show up as the best version of yourself!

Many beginners to meditation find it difficult to sit in silence and focus on their breath without assistance, so I highly suggest downloading an App on your electronic device for access to guided meditations. A guided meditation will assist you with your focus and guide you through the meditation from beginning to end. There are hundreds of guided meditations you can choose from as well as hundreds of Apps that you can subscribe to…some are free, and others have a fee. This allows you to personally choose from the many different types of meditation that are available to you. I suggest Insight Timer (you can find me on there), Headspace, or Calm. You can review those and see what appeals to you!

In Buddhist philosophy, the ultimate benefit of meditation is liberation of the mind from attachment to things it cannot control, such as external circumstances or strong internal emotions. The liberated or “enlightened” practitioner no longer needlessly follows desires or clings to experiences, but instead maintains a calm mind and sense of inner harmony.


1. Sit – You can sit in a chair or on the floor. It’s doesn’t matter. Make sure you are comfortable, and you limit your distractions. Sit with an upright spine.

2. Arms and Hands – You can rest them in your lap or on your thighs.

3. Legs and Feet – You can sit with your legs crossed or straight. If you are on a cushion, try to have your hips higher than your legs. This will be more comfortable.

4. Set a timer or use a guided meditation. Don’t forget to put the device on airplane mode to minimize distractions. If you are new, I suggest beginning with 2-5 minutes and increase from there. Ideally, 10-20 minutes a day is optimal.

5. Take a moment – Take a moment to see how you feel. Pay attention to your thoughts. Allow all the mind chatter to come and notice it.

6. Close your eyes – This will allow you to begin to turn your attention inward. If you are not comfortable with your eyes closed, create a soft gaze on an object in front of you.

7. Take a few long, slow deeps breaths in an out signaling your body that you are relaxing.

9. Finally…Stay with it! No meditation will be beneficial if you don’t stay with it.

Remember, The only bad meditation is the meditation that you didn't do.

If you are interested in learning about meditation and would like assistance, I would love to connect with you in person or in the virtual world. Click here to connect. Let’s “sit” together!

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